The holidays have reminded me that we are surrounded by so many grieving and hurting hearts. Maybe you are or know someone who is still mourning the loss of a loved one. Maybe you are or know someone who is struggling every single day to find joy and hope during the trials.
The idea that rough roads and painful journeys lead to beautiful destinations is often baffling. When facing a crisis, head-on, the last thing someone wants to hear from a bystander is, “You will be fine, with time” or “You will move on.”
One thing about crisis that we need to know is that every road and every journey is different. We all mourn differently. We all deal with and process pain differently. No person copes the same. No person is created the same; hence we think, act, and cope in our own way.
I recently met and been reminded of some amazing people who have faced dark and treacherous journeys, but they came out praising the Lord with their hands in the air. This concept is still new to me. I am thankful for the trials. I am thankful for the difficult times. I am thankful that God uses the rough patches of life to draw us closer to Him, but in the moment of pain and grief – it is difficult to swallow. It is difficult to raise your hands and thank the Lord for heartache and loss. It is difficult to tell someone struggling to pay their bills that it will work out. It is difficult to tell a widow that she will heal and move on. It is difficult to tell someone whose child has cancer that everything will work out. It is difficult to tell those who miscarry that they can just have another baby. Those words, in the moments of loss and grief, can be devastating for some.
Sometimes, it is not about SAYING anything to someone during their heartache and heartbreak, it is simply about being there for them, loving them, and being sensitive to their needs.
This can be extremely difficult. We often feel like we have to say the RIGHT thing to someone in pain. Someone in pain just needs to know we care about them and that we will be there for them – with zero judgment. They want to know that you do not just care in one emotional moment – they want to know they will not be abandoned during their healing process. Someone in pain wants to know that hope is on the horizon. Someone facing heartache wants to feel the love, not just to be told they are loved and cared for.
Actions speak volumes to those who are grieving.
So, what now?
We all know someone facing a difficult time – whether it be a separation, death of a loved one, identity crisis, job loss, or a period of depression. Trials are very real. Pain is present in all of our lives in some way, shape, or form, BUT, our God is bigger! The Holy Spirit can guide our actions and focus our heart on compassion for those around us who are facing difficult and trying circumstances.
3 Words – JUST BE THERE.
Be there for your hurting friend. Let your actions speak volumes and let compassion be the voice of hope.
Maybe you are currently facing a trial. I pray for healing over your heart and your situation. I pray that God can use your story for His glory. It is ok to seek professional help from a counselor, talk to a pastor, or confide in a close friend. It is ok to admit you need help and are struggling. That is not weakness – it takes true strength to ask for help.
Today, I am praying these passages of hope, compassion and healing over you:
Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”
Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Psalm 18:28 “You, Lord, keep my lamp burning; my God turns my darkness into light.”
Psalm 46:1-2 “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea.”
Beautiful Chaos is about finding hope and joy in every phase of life.