I used to dream of being a famous songwriter and a New York Times Bestselling Author. Since my little Liam came into the world, my heart and dreams have changed in so many ways. I no longer dream of fame and fortune, I long to see my son reach his God-given potential. Follow his dreams. To learn to care about other people. To hear “I love you” from his parents every day. For him to know what a gift from God he was and is. Charlotte Pearson said, “Motherhood: The most exhausting, emotional, rewarding and life-enhancing journey a woman can take.”
While I do have a number of personal and career goals for my own future, I am excited to continue on the epic adventure of motherhood. My son’s smile and laughter bring joy to our every day. Even when the days are valleys instead of mountains.
I came across a Motherhood Bible Study recently that asked the question, “Does mothering matter?”
Sometimes when we are constantly changing diapers, washing adorable baby clothes, picking up mountains of toys, washing sippy cups with animal crackers stuffed in the straw, and doing other tasks that seem mundane to the world – we need to be reminded that mothering DOES matter.
Proverbs 22:6 tells us, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”
We have a very important task to do, mommas! Even if it means picking up crushed goldfish for the tenth time in 10 minutes (that’s my Liam!).
These beautiful blessings are our future leaders. Our future pastors, teachers, doctors. They are future parents and world changers. We need to invest in them, love them, and nurture them.
Russ and I want Liam to work hard for things rather than feel like everything should be handed to him. Of course we want to give him a good life, but we also want him to value hard work and determination. We want Liam to learn to notice people who are hurting around him and teach him to open the door for strangers and befriend the kid sitting all alone at the lunch table. We want him to value people and take advantage of opportunities to make the world a better place. We want him to respect authority. We desperately want him to see his parents love and respect one another. My, my – what a task the Lord has given us! Parenting is a mission field.
What we are doing today will make a difference tomorrow. Playing with our little one, singing songs about how much Jesus loves them, making them giggle – these are instrumental to their growth and development. Loving them richly is far more important than expensive cars and big houses.
If if you are struggling today, know that what you are doing for your child DOES matter. If you were up at 3:00 AM changing a huge blowout diaper, know that these are the moments we will soon miss. I am already realizing how much I miss holding that teeny tiny infant he used to be. Now, he’s running all around the place, trying to prove he’s “Mr. Independent.” Our children are watching us. Our sons will decide what kind of wife they want someday and our daughters will decide what kind of wife and mother they want to be in the future because of our daily interactions. Woah.
I’ve struggled with my identity many times since Liam was born. But, God’s beautiful plan is slowly unfolding before my eyes – being a mom is my epic and life changing adventure.
I pray that we do not wish time away – soak up these moments!
Jill Churchill said, “The most important thing she’d learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”
Stay strong during the long and sleepless nights, when picking up crushed goldfish because your child likes to stomp on them to annoy you, while telling your toddler to stop picking their nose whilst touching your hair, or to stop licking the door for the 85th time in one hour. Just a normal day in the Mommy-hood.
YOU GOT THIS!
Beautiful Chaos is about finding joy, hope and healing in every phase of life.