Lauren Alaina sings a song called “Road Less Traveled” and she says,
“Wear out your boots and kick up the gravel, don’t be afraid, take the road less traveled on”
I know it’s not a “Christian” song, but there is something about the lyrics in the song that have really convicted me lately. If I want to be a different kind of wife, mother, Christian, daughter, sister, friend, then I have a lot of work to do.
Instead of always waiting for something to happen to me, or someone to initiate something first, I also have to go out of my way:
If I want a different kind of marriage, I can’t let my husband do all the work and the pursuing. I have to be intentional and go out of my way to build and nurture our relationship. I can’t wait for him to apologize first. I can’t hold on to past grudges.
If I want a different kind of relationship with my kids, then I can’t let the bad days consume me and dictate the way I wake up and begin parenting at the start of every day.
I can’t lose my cool over every toddler tantrum, when my son throws his food again because he doesn’t want to eat, or because I am anxiously working to get him potty trained before his sister arrives in a few short months.
If I want to be a different kind of Christian, then I have to make my relationship with Christ a priority. Not a last resort.
I have to love others whole-heartedly and be less judgmental. I have to stop looking at the lives of others with tunnel vision and see all the ailing pieces of my heart that I desperately need to hand over to Christ. I need to see the broken pieces of their hearts and lives that I can minister to.
I need to earnestly seek out the lost more than I do. I need to invite my non-Christian friends to church.
If I am being honest, there is much that I am currently lacking, but God is stirring the fire and passion and conviction in my heart. I have to listen to that voice in my head telling me to invite someone to church or seek out a new friendship. Even if it’s uncomfortable.
I am often very fearful of rejection instead of taking that leap. I am a people-pleaser and because of this, I am often hesitant to say or do something that could cause rejection or chaos in a relationship. Sometimes I just avoid it altogether. I am also hesitant to begin new things because change is difficult.
Here’s what I DO know:
God doesn’t call us to be comfortable, He calls us to stand up for Him. He calls us to tell others about Him. He calls us to raise our families with Him as the center. He calls us to live outside of our comfort zones because that means utter dependence on Him.
I want my kids to be excited to try new things, enthusiastically invite their friends to church, and to be kind to those of all background and beliefs.
My husband and I have to set the example. We have to be willing to put ourselves out there and invite people to church, get more involved serving our community, and invest in relationships, including our own. Our kids will have a view of marriage by watching ours.
If we want a different kind of life, then we have to be willing to lace up our boots and take the road less traveled – the road that’s not always popular. The road that’s not always easy. The road that sometimes leads to rejection or falling down and getting back up again. The road that calls us to put ourselves out there and hand over the reigns to Jesus! He has to be the one paving the way, clearing the path, and being our tour guide. He is our light in a dark world. A guide when we don’t know where to go.
If you are trying to make big decisions today – remember, the easy road is not always the best one. Taking the difficult route doesn’t mean it isn’t leading you to the best destination FOR you.
This verse has been on repeat when I think about journeying and trying to find our way. Maybe it shouldn’t be OUR way, but GOD’S way:
Psalms 119:105, “Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path” (NLT).
The Bible is our road map.
Jesus is our guide.
That sounds like a journey that I don’t want to miss!