Give Your Spouse The Bigger Piece of Pie

It’s amazing how sometimes the smallest acts can teach us the biggest lessons. Have the biggest impact on our lives. Inspire us to reroute our current patterns of thinking.

I’m 24 weeks pregnant and one of my current cravings is fresh-out-of-the-oven, leaves-your-mouth-watering, homemade pumpkin pie. ‘Tis the season. Admittedly, I recently made two pumpkin pies within a four or five day period. (Heyyyyy, two pie crusts per box, remember?) My husband was cutting the last section of the pie and frantically cut it into two pieces (because aforementioned pregnant wife was standing over his shoulder). I quickly muttered, “Hmmm… who gets the bigger one?” and smirked, thinking he would take the bigger piece (because, I admit, I would).

Without hesitation, he handed me the pie and said, “Here, baby!” with a Prince-Charming-like smile that immediately made me blush and made my heart go pitter patter.

Being the pumpkin pie goblin that I am, I didn’t offer it back to him. I took it and went on my merry way, humming and wobbling out of the kitchen as quickly as I could before he had time to change his mind.

The more I’ve thought about the last two pieces of pumpkin pie, I mean, … my husband’s selfless act, the more the Spirit whispers in my ear that sometimes the smallest acts of kindness can leave the biggest impression on your heart.

Sometimes starting with the smaller things in life help us grow and work toward changing bigger things. It’s a stepping stone. The start of a journey. The avenue to change and new beginnings. 

Small acts of kindness often change our thinking patterns and help us realize how rewarding our relationships can be when we make the other person a priority. 

Maybe these small acts can rekindle the fizzling flames of marriages.

Maybe these small acts can change the way we parent and spend quality time with our children.

Maybe these small acts can help us cultivate authentic friendships by opening up our hearts and minds to someone or something else.

Maybe these small acts can influence the save-the-pie-for-ourselves society that we live in.

What if, we stopped trying to always keep our pie for ourselves and give it to someone else?

Small acts don’t have to come in the form of sharing pumpkin pie:

  • Maybe we can be extra patient, kind, and helpful to those moms in the grocery store dealing with their child’s meltdown at the checkout line? 
  • Perhaps leaving love notes for our spouse or planning a romantic dinner in would change the course of their tiring and stressful week and just remind them that we are there for them. 
  • Maybe sending a sweet text message or hand-written letter to someone we haven’t talked to recently can brighten their entire day and remind them how much they do mean to us.
  • Sometimes leaving positive comments on social media can change someone’s day instead of nitpicking and judging everything we see. Planting seeds of kindness changes and transforms relationships. 

I want to operate more from a kind heart rather than my selfish pumpkin-pie “all for myself” attitude. 

Colossians 3:12 reminds us, “Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience” (NLT).

These sound like the ingredients necessary to help us share the bigger piece of “pumpkin pie” with our spouse, our children, our friends, and our neighbors. 

Sometimes we forget that people are simply doing the best they can – working through spiritual battles, fizzling marriages, strong-willed children, financial uncertainties, and just trying to trust God and figure life out as it happens. Maybe we can be a small spark in their day – something to help reignite their passion for helping, serving, and loving others. Or maybe a reminder that it’s ok to love the unique person that God created us to be.

**I have to give a shout out to my husband for giving me the bigger piece of pie on too many occasions to name. God knows what speaks to me! Look for your “pumpkin pie” moments. ♥️**


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