The truth is this: sometimes the grass is greener on the other side of the fence because that’s where we water it.
The “green grass” of life is where we tend to focus on the positive, potential, and newfound sense of hope. That’s where we look for the good in things. When we’ve been in a pasture for quite some time – we tend to forget how truly blessed we are. We also tend to dwell on the negative, the bitterness, the feelings of inadequacy. Pastor Michael Brueseke said, “If we are not growing in our relationship with Christ, we will live in bitterness and discontent.” This really spoke to my heart. If we are not working on our relationship with Christ and building relationships with others, we are not moving forward – we are not growing and blossoming and God created us to flourish.
We tend to get lost in feelings of pain and frustration from situations and different uncertainties and forget where we’ve been, what we have walked through, and what we’ve overcome in Jesus’ name.
We forget how beautiful the flowers are beginning to bloom after months of pruning. Those relationships we have worked to build. Those situations where we hit rock bottom and came out of the pits of despair and back into the arms of Jesus.
We forget to look for the buds, waiting to bust through as new, radiant flowers that will completely revive and rejuvenate our path and direction in life.
We forget that the butterflies are swarming around us, taking our breath away. Those moments that are ordained by God – where there are no words to describe just how amazing it is.
The truth is – we’ll never truly be happy or joyful in life if we don’t see God’s immediate blessings right in front of our very eyes.
Pastor Michael Brueseke said, “Don’t park in the pain of the past when you were only meant to pass through.” We are meant to pass through to God’s grace and to continue seeing His plan unfold before our very eyes.
No place and no person will truly meet all of our expectations when we are focused on the wrong things. New adventures and paths are and can be wonderful. Eventually, new things are no longer “new,” and we begin to lose sight of the green grass amidst the fog that we let overcome our focus as we pass through turbulent times. This may come in the form of a job, severed relationship, lost passion, or perhaps we’ve just given up in general.
This is something that God has been teaching my husband and I over the last year. When I feel hopeless in a situation or with a certain person – I want to look for a new solution right away. I want to avoid it. The truth is – God can help me learn something in trying situations and with different personalities and learn to truly depend on Him.
I have been reading Lizzie Velasquez’s book, “Dare To Be Kind,” and she says, “I want to counter people’s negativity and hate by spreading love and positivity. Everything is a choice, and once you make your choice, it’s really very simple. Many people don’t realize how much they can do, as far as making bad choices or good ones. Even if you decide just to make the smallest good choice, it’s eventually going to lead to something great that is much bigger than yourself.”
Change does not happen overnight, but eyes can slowly be opened to see the revitalized green grass right under our tired, weary, sluggish feet. It starts with one choice. One decision to be kind when people are hateful. One choice to reach out to someone even if they don’t appear to be reaching back. This is how we can begin to see the green grass underneath our feet again.
The take away?
- There will be tough times.
- There will be seasons of growth.
- There will be trials.
- There will be days when you want to throw in the towel – whether it’s a specific situation or person you feel like giving up on.
- There will be conversations with people when you just want to be rude back.
- It’s time to look for the rare flowers amidst a slew of weeds.
- It’s time to stop and smell the rose petals amongst the thorns.
- It’s time to find the good in what is before our very eyes – where God has placed us this moment in time.
Change begins with us.
Kindness begins with us.
Healing begins with Jesus at the center.
A changed world begins in our own hearts.
1 Timothy 4:7-10 (NLT) says, “Do not waste time arguing over godless ideas and old wives’ tales. Instead, train yourself to be godly. Physical training is good, but training for godliness is much better, promising benefits in this life and in the life to come. This is a trustworthy saying, and everyone should accept it. This is why we work hard and continue to struggle, for our hope is in the living God, who is the Savior of all people and particularly all believers.”